I tried to join a session using FS9 on the simv server, and I believe I was there as I had FShost running and I could see that others were on, and it said it added me, I then started FS9 and clicked mutiplayer and entered the server IP there also,  then I was lost for a little bit as it does not tell you what to do next. So I went to create a flight and just hit fly now not adjusting anything on that screen, and wound up at seattle with no AI(that's what makes me think I was on because I have hundreds of AI packs that always show in non-online flight) I could see a chat window and use it, but noone responed. Am I doing something wrong? Do I need to use teamspeak in order to talk to others, or does everyone use the chat? Or is the problem that I need to change my location to where everyone was? Never done online flying and I followed the stickies as best as I could understand them.
  I tried the FSX gamespy once and managed to get on for a 5minute session with 15other people before getting the famous error and never tried again, so I know my ports and firewalls are not a problem. Are there special settings I need to make to the display other than locking frames at 20? Sorry for the tons of questions.
Thanks for any help.

Thank you SOOOOOOOO much!!!!! That's easier than I thought!