as the title says does life get easy?
just as things seem to be going my way, wham i get hit with something else. just the other day i end up speaking to my ex's sister(we talk every now and again and are still friends) the problem starts when she tells me i should try and get her back, i wont go into the details as to why we broke up as that was something i promised to keep between us. but anyway, she starts going on how she isnt her usual bubbly self with her current boyfriend and how she was happier with me and so on, now its obviously difficult to tell if she is completley accurate in these observations, admitidly from the few times i have spoken to my ex she has seemed less like herself. but again it could just be my ex's sister not liking this guy and wanting him gone, so now i am left thinking what the hell do i do, and do i risk any future chance by getting involved now. i aint looking for a fight with this guy as me and fighting are bad thing, last time was few years ago and it was lucky there were alot of people round to pull me off the guy,  and i refuse now to get into fights with anyone.
all i need to know is does it get easier with age? i am 19 and i am being put through more stress than i think is normal and fair.
oh to be retired like fozzer, carefree most difficult desicion has to be what time to eat breakfast:) wanna swap mate?  

Hmmm. Why do I get a feeling of deja vu Craig? Seems we've been down this road before. Admit it, you never got over this ex of yours. Her sister is not helping at all.

I could give you my advice to forget it & move on. Stop seeing these people for a while if that helps & find new interests. There's plenty more fish in the sea so go out & find them. That would be the sensible way but I know you won't listen. Only you can make that decision.

In my experience, life doesn't get any easier. The priorities change & you might manage to cope with it better, that's all. I can't speak for Fozzer but I'm retired too. I'm quite satisfied with my life but would willingly swap with you any day. 

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Swap...?
Nah. I dont think so Craig.... ...!
But....
I can knock you up a very nice English Breakfast....
Egg, bacon, fried mushrooms, fried tomatoes, fried bread, fresh bread and real butter.
All washed down with a nice cup of tea... ...!
...that should make you feel better... ...!

Cheers mate... ...!
Paul....retiree, cheerer-up of un-happy people, and cook extraordinaire... ...!
(Hereford).
LOL...LOL...LOL...!

okay,fozzer,but keep the mushrooms away from me,i don't like mushrooms in general...

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LOL. always good for a laugh fozzer
cheers mate:)

your only as old as you feel ozzy:) and looking at some of your antics in jumbos, something tells me thats not very
but hey if you have seen the girls round here you wouldnt be saying that urgh and most are as dumb as door nails too. i'm just not interested in the whole dating scene really. perhaps thats why i make things so hard on myself who knows:)to picky maybe. as for the beer perhaps i should start drinking seems to take many of lifes problems away:)

sounds like i should take a break out there:)
i will be avoiding the alcohol i cant stand anything along those lines and i have seen some of the things it can do. waters perfectly fine for me. hows the running going then ozzy?

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  What??
  Okay, I know all the drinkers in here are gonna beat me up now, but trust me, alcohol is the worst possible thing you could do to yourself when things are not going your way.
  You can not make clear decisions when you are drinking, I know you are going to drink if you get the urge no matter what anybody says, but I figure I would just let you in on a few things alcohol has done for me:

  Alcohol has landed me in jail more than once.
  It caused me to lose my drivers license for 6 months.
  It has gotten me into many fights....with people who used to be my friends!
  When drinking I believe I can put my fist through anything and have done a lot of damage to myself.
  The woman that I loved more than anything in the world left me after five years due to my little love of the drink. I got lucky and she came back....after three years of seperation and my promise to never touch a drop of alcohol again, a promise I have kept for almost four years now.

  I used to be the life of the party when I was drinking, but when I had 10 too many I became the guy no one wanted to be around because I would try to start a fight with everyone...for no reason.

  Oh yeah, I almost forgot the time I pulled a gun on my brother because he tried to tell me I'd had enough.
NOBODY tells me when I've had enough.

  Not to mention all the times I woke up in very unusual places, not remembering how I got there, or all the times I drank until I puked and swore I would never do it again....until the next time.

  I know what you are going to say: "You had a serious drinking problem" and you know how I will respond: "Yep, I was a full blown alcoholic," I didn't really crave it, but alls it took was one beer, and I would not stop until I passed out, or all the alcohol was gone, or the bar closed.

  I can honestly say that all the worst problems I've ever had to deal with were directly related to alcohol consumption, and it all started out by just having a few beers with my friends.
I love to drink and anyone would tell you I was great fun to drink with, but it got really out of control.

  But that's just my story, I know some folks can have a few beers and call it a night, and they do this their whole lives, I wish I could have been that way, but I don't miss it now, my head is clear and I can see all the trouble drinking caused me, and how much it cost me in the end.

  I don't want to sound preachy, that's just not me, I can only tell you my story, and everyones story is different, but don't think for one second that drinking makes your problems go away, it only makes you forget about them for the moment, and you just might find yourself where I was, waking up the next day in some field, and on the long walk home you realize that your problems are still there and a lot of times the things you can't remember that you did while you were having a great time drinking only made them worse.

  I am totally clean now, I quit drinking, smoking cigarettes, (both tobacco and funny) and using other chemicals, I figure I'm 37 and I spent the first half of my life getting f'd up and having fun, and I did have a lot of fun, playing in bands, getting layed, raising hell, but now I want to be healthy and stay out of trouble.

  But you're only 19 so you are going to have to learn these things on your own, and I would never tell someone not to do something that I myself had done in the past, just be careful with the choices you make in life, it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, get your education and pilots license, stick to your goals and stay focused. I've been through a lot with women so I know where you're coming from, and my advice in that department is let her come back to you, if she wants to work it out she will let you know, it's cool to talk as friends, every relationship starts out as a friendship, but if you try to push it you'll just push her away.
  I don't want to make your situation seem hopeless because there is always a chance, but this will probably not be the only female that will do this to you, there will be others down the road, so just go with the flow.

And that's all I gotta say 'bout that.

                                                       Paz out

P.S. If someone tells you drugs will help, I got stories for that too.
Well Fozzers magic mushrooms probably wouldn't hurt....
nah...wouldn't hurt at all

well after a few days of hard thinking i have decided to leave this whole situation alone till i have gotten my pilots license. i realized i cant afford any serious distractions and i sure as hell cant afford anything that will cost me time and money, once i have sorted out my license whether it be just PPL or all the way through the instructors rating(wheres brad i need to ask him about that) i need 100% concentration on that. Afterwards i will sort everything else out.
thanks again for the advice its much appreciated:)
you guys are definatly the most patient people i have met in a long time and its great to there are some people who take the time to listen, much respect to all of you.
Craig

especially if we have a .44 calibre magnum to hand eh Ken?

ok this is seriously getting more F'd up than i could even begin to imagine.
ok just spoke to my Ex and apparently her and her boyfriend split up on sunday. and this time speaking to me she seemed alot more happy to talk to me, i am getting seriously mixed thoughts on what to do here now, someone please shoot me now to make this easier. ??? 

i asked one of you to blow me away knowing me i'd make a mess of it and just end up with a hole in my foot
i really cant understand why i cant just walk away from this, all my life i have moved due to the army life, lost friends made news ones, but i have just never really given it a second thought then one person comes along and suddenly thats all gone out the window, and what really annoys me is i used to be a real A'hole who just turn off my feelings towards a person at any point and not give a damn about anyone and i cant do that either.

hey fozzer wheres that rifle you were supposed to be sending a few weeks back:)
and thanks ozzy i know it must seem like your hitting your head against a brick wall with this, and i do appreciate your patience with this, and i even do listen and follow the advice its just then something else comes along a short time later

you might be right there hagar. all i know is i have to sort this thing out before i start full time training for my pilots licenses, there is no way i can get in a plane without full attention on that. i think i might speak to an uncle of mine about some time away, he lives in canada perhaps being away from it all in a completely differant country will work, i might take that holiday suggestion and put it to good use, fresh mountain air will do a person good:) plus he works as an aircraft mechanic for a major airline(cant remember which) but might get a chance to go see some planes:)

that didnt make this any easier:)
and i am still hoping to goto the US for my training assuming money things work out. thing is that has history to which wouldnt help me get away from it. canada is about as far away from everything i could ever get. and i would never give up the chance to become a pilot for anyone, its my ultimate dream and honestly untill i am a fully certified pilot there is nothing i would give it up for.

go ahead hurt me:) if thats what it takes you can bash me over the head with a 2x4 for hours if  it helps if you want. i do appreciate your advice honestly. i am just a little to stubborn for my own good(which is never a good thing) i think i am finally figuring something out and i will give it a go tomorow. i know this isnt an overnight thing.
thank you hagar i know i can be very annoying in my ways sometimes:)

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  If this girl is screwing your head up this bad, then escaping to a new environment could be the best thing, but you have to go with a goal and FOCUS on that goal, I know because it has worked for me a couple of times, go where you don't know anybody and start over, and for gosh sakes if you want to get over this chick, DON'T take any pictures of her along to remind you of how depressed you are.
  Your only other option is to grow some nuts and ask her where she stands, if theres a chance to rekindle the relationship then take it slow, let her set the pace, but don't freak out if she says she doesn't want to hook back up, then at least you know you can quit worrying about it and move on.
  Trust me! Don't let her mess with your head! Women love to do that to guys! and personally I have learned to never trust a girl that just broke up with someone,you'll end up being even more messed up when she starts bouncing back and forth between you and the other guy.
 
  Oh yeah, there have been a lot of times in my life when I thought it would be easier to just give up and end it all, or if I drank myself to death along with a heathy contribution from other substances maybe that would be for the best, I sure am glad I was never successful in doing these things, because there is so many things that I would have missed out on.
  If you don't end up marrying this girl, and maybe even if you do, unless you are TRULY meant to be together, 10 years from now you won't even think about her, and if you do, it will probably be to relate your experiences to somebody else dealing with the same problem.

thanks guys:) you have all helped alot:)
ozzy golf wouldnt be a good idea, i suck at it:) more reason to avoid it, last time i hit a golf ball i broke a window
thanks hagar, the hard hitting approach works alot better with me in some cases.
and thanks paz, i wouldnt consider it as a short term option like you said rebounds bad idea, i am going to sort this all out though one way or another it ends soon.
and after seeing some of the pay checks these airline pilots get, there is no way i am giving up on it now:)